Anonymous asked: okay thanks :) when should i wait to consider it 'late'?xxxx
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Anonymous asked: This may be a tricky question but I 100% trust your opinion :) Is it really necessary to see a gynecologist for a check up/pap smear each year? Even if they aren't having sex? I know if you ARE sexually active then yes it's a good idea but I'm mid-20s, virgin, and I went once four years ago and to be honest I never want to experience that again lol. thanks!
Yes, it is important to get your pelvic exam done. That is like any other kind of check-up. It’s to make sure that everything is hunky dory down and up there.
No, you do not have to get your pap smear every year. Pap smears check for cervical cancer cells. If you’re not having sex, then you’re not at risk for HPV, so you’re unlikely to develop cervical cancer. Likewise, if you’re not sexually active, you don’t have to worry about doing STI testing.
Recently, they changed pap smear regulations. They are currently as follows:
Age 21-29: Every three years, unless abnormal.
Age 30-64: Every three years, unless abnormal.
Age 65+: No more pap smears, unless abnormal.
So, again: you should be going annually for your pelvic exam, but not for your pap smear.
For the record, the entire gynecological experience is a pelvic exam. The pap smear is when they insert a Q-tip to scrape cells off of your cervix. So, unfortunately (for you and your hatred of the procedure!), what you should be doing annually is what you “never want to experience again.”
That being said, I will say this about the procedure, in my personal experience: it gets easier every time you do it. In, out, done. And it’s nice to know you don’t have cancer. ;)
Anonymous asked: I'm a virgin and I really want to start fingering myself. I have done clitoral for years but now its time for something now. Problem is...i can't get anything in without cringing or feeling strange. What can I do to break myself in?
Are you “cringing” and “feeling strange” as in it’s painful? Or as in it makes you emotionally uncomfortable?
Take it slowly! Use clitoral stimulation to keep you really wet, and then try to insert one finger — even if it’s just up to the first or second knuckle. Get a feel for how you like that, and see where it takes you.
You might not be crazy about it! Some people aren’t into penetration. And that’s okay! The most important thing about pleasure is that you figure out how you derive pleasure, instead of worrying about how other people think you should derive pleasure. Savvy?
Good for you for wanting to try something new, though!
Anonymous asked: im the girl who was worried about pregnancy ect. my period is due around now but im not worried at all. i deffo dont think im pregnant and i feel fine. should i be worried?xx
Hell naw.
Don’t be worried until your period is actually late.
In fact, it’s better not to be worried, because anxiety can make you miss your period!
Anonymous asked: i know you dont like the use of 'is this normal' but how much discharge is normal? hope you had a nice holiday and you are my life saver btw ;)xoxox
Don’t ever be afraid to ask me if something is normal! It doesn’t bother me, per se. It just makes me sad when people think that their bodies are doing something wrong when they’re being perfectly natural!
The thing about normality concerns is that the answer is almost always going to be the same: “It depends.” As is the case with this question. It depends.
It varies woman to woman. Some women have more, while some have less. Whatever you body is doing is probably “normal” for you. You should only be concerned if all of a sudden, it changes.
Generally, I’d say that finding some discharged cervical fluid on your underwear daily or almost daily is normal, with it sometimes being a little bit more than usual. If you’re discharging enough to warrant the use of panty-liners or having to change your underwear, then that might be cause for concern.
Also, if you’re suffering from a bacterial infection (like a yeast infection), then the amount of discharge will change and likely be heavier. But unless you’re experiencing other symptoms (like itching or burning), it’s probably not an infection.
Does this help at all??
I’m glad I have saved your life!! I will do it many more times, if needs be! xxx
Anonymous asked: How do you get cum stains out of a couch?
Wash it. ;)
Soap and water might do the trick.
If not, try a pet stain spray.
Anonymous asked: Now that you finally clarify the mystery of cervical fluid, I'm confused. I know it's usually thick, but now I can't tell if I'm wet or I'm just discharging.. :/ it seems silly, but it's all new to me~
:)
Cervical fluid is usually more viscous (thicker) than wetness. It gets as thin as egg whites.
Vaginal secretion, however, has more of a (forgive the gross analogy) runny nose type texture.
Are you aroused? Is there a lot of it? Is it thin and wet? Is it clear? Vaginal secretion.
Is it everyday life? Is it white or cloudy? Is there just a spot of it? Cervical fluid.
Make sense?
Anonymous asked: how late does a period be for it to be officially be late?
There is no hard-and-fast rule for this, because it really depends on the consistency and regularity of your cycle, as well as other factors that may contribute to your period being late.
Generally, I would wait it out for a week if your period is regular, two if your period is irregular. That is, if your period always comes on a Tuesday or Wednesday like clockwork, I’d wait until the next Wednesday to consider it late or missed. If your period is less consistent (or if you aren’t particularly sure of when it comes), I’d give it a couple of weeks before declaring it late or missed.
If you keep careful track of your cycles (and your period is regular), then you should be able to tell exactly when your period is coming, give or take 24 hours.
Anonymous asked: what does implantation bleeding look like and how long does it last?
It looks more or less like spotting.
It can last 1-2 weeks.
If you are just past ovulation, it can be implantation bleeding. If you are near your period, then it is probably just spotting.
Anonymous asked: am i going to get pregnant bc we used baby oil??
Pregnancy is a lot more complicated than just what you use for lubrication — in fact, it’s a lot more complicated than just whether or not semen got inside of you.
Here’s the thing: like I said, you are not supposed to use oil-based (or petroleum-based) lubricant with condoms. They break down the latex of the condom, making it weaker. It’s very, very possible for the combination to result in holes in the condom (both undetectable and not).
If you used an oil-based lubricant (like baby oil), and he came inside of you, then yes, there would be an increased risk of pregnancy because there would be a chance that, if the condom had holes in it, that the semen found its way into your vagina.
However, you said that the entire reason you were using the baby oil was because you were having trouble with penetration, and you said that both times that you tried, he wasn’t able to penetrate you. I assume this also means that he didn’t ejaculate. Therefore, your chance of pregnancy is the same as it would be if, say, he used the withdrawal method, which is 85% effective — the same(-ish) as condoms used correctly.
So, are you going to get pregnant because of the way that you used baby oil, in your particular scenario? Probably not.
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